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(Tim Shurr Newsletter) Hi Reader, Your mind is constantly trying to protect you. That sounds like a good thing, and it is. But there’s a problem. Your mind can become so focused on protecting you from what might happen that it creates stress about things that aren’t happening at all.
And then, before anything has actually happened, your body responds as if those predictions have occurred. If you’ve ever been sitting there feeling fine and then you get a surge of panic, your brain is subconsciously playing the ‘worst case scenario’ game in your brain. I call this voice The Intruder. The Intruder isn’t you. It’s the fearful, protective part of your mind that constantly scans for what could go wrong and then tries to convince you that you need to solve it immediately. The problem is that you can’t find peace by solving imaginary problems. You find peace by returning to what is real. Here are 3 steps I teach for doing exactly that. Step 1: Recognize The Intruder - The first step is simply noticing when your mind has taken over. Listen for words like: “What if…” “This could go badly.” “I don’t know what I’m going to do.” “Something is going to happen.” “What if they say no?” “What if it gets worse?” Those thoughts can feel like facts, but they aren’t. They’re predictions. So instead of arguing with the thought, simply recognize it: “That’s The Intruder.” That simple distinction creates space between you and the thought. You don’t have to believe every prediction your mind produces. Step 2: Return to the Present - Once you recognize The Intruder, ask: “What is actually happening right now?” Not tomorrow. Not next month. Not what might happen. Right now. Look around. Feel your feet on the floor. Take a slow breath. I often use what I call Power Breathing, slowing your breathing deliberately and bringing your attention back into your body. Then ask: “What can I actually do right now?” You may discover that the situation you’re worrying about isn’t happening yet. And if it is happening, you can focus on the next useful action rather than allowing your mind to run ten steps ahead. Peace doesn’t require knowing what happens next. It requires being present for what is happening now. Step 3: Return to Something Greater Than Yourself - The final step is surrender. For me, that means turning to God. You might describe it as faith, prayer, a higher power, or simply trusting something greater than your own ability to control everything. The question becomes: “What if I don’t have to figure everything out right now?” You can ask:
When fear asks, “How do I prevent everything from going wrong?” You focus on: “How do I move forward with peace, clarity, and faith?” That’s a very different question. Your 60-Second Return to PeaceThe next time you notice yourself worrying, stop and run through this:
You don’t have to eliminate every stressful thought, control every circumstance, or buy into every nightmare story your mind tries to sell you. You can notice the thought. Return to the present. Trust something greater than the thought. Then move forward. Peace isn’t the absence of problems. It’s knowing that a problem isn’t in control, you are. Make the solution the path you follow. That’s the Return to Peace and it will help you get to the other side of whatever situation you’re in, while maintaining what’s left of your sanity. :) Tim Shurr, MA PS. Bring keynote speaker, Tim Shurr, to your next event and uplevel team performance. Reply for more info or visit TimShurr.com |
I help high-achieving founders, business owners, and sales pros upgrade their "mental operating system" to achieve elite results without the burnout. Using the One Belief Away™ method, I help you rapidly eliminate subconscious resistance and install the unshakeable confidence needed to scale your business, strengthen your marriage, and restore inner peace.
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